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Oct. 11th, 2006 06:58 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
draggonlaadySo by signing up for Ann Coulter's email thingo, I also apparently signed myself up as a member of the "Vast Right-Wing Conspiracy." No, really, they call themselves that. And the VRWC sends out MANY adverts about books they think you should be reading. The following is one of the emails I got today, and the thoughts I had on it...because, you know, I had a strong father and I'd like to think I'm a strong daughter. My comments are indented.
by Dr. Meg Meeker
That's right - and teen health expert Dr. Meg Meeker has the data and clinical experience to prove the most important person in a young girl's life is her father. After more than twenty years of counseling girls, Dr. Meeker knows that fathers, more than anyone else, set the course for their daughters' lives.
Now, Dr. Meeker shows you how to strengthen -- or rebuild -- your bond with your daughter, and use it to shape her life, and yours, for the better. Directly challenging the feminist attack on traditional masculinity, Dr. Meeker demonstrates that the most important factor for confident, well-adjusted women is a strong father with conservative values. To have one, she shows, is the best protection against eating disorders, failure in school, STD's, unwed pregnancy, and drug or alcohol abuse -- and the best predictor of academic achievement, successful marriage, and a satisfying emotional life.
Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters reveals:
* The essential virtues and characteristics of strong fathers -- and how to develop them
* How daughters take cues from their fathers on everything from drug use, drinking, smoking, and having sex, to self-esteem, moodiness, and seeking attention from boys
* How to "be the man you want her to marry"
* Why girls want you to place restrictions on them (even though they'll complain when you do)
* How to become a "hero" to your daughter -- and why she needs that more than anything
* The one mistake fathers make that is the primary cause of girls "hooking up"
* How fathers act as a check on female emotions -- which can lead to trouble
* Why girls depend on the guidance of fathers through, and even beyond, their colleges years
* Debunked: the dangerous notion that girls "need to make their own decisions and mistakes"
* Why girls need God -- and how your faith (or lack of it) will influence her deeply
* Contraceptives and depression: the alarming links
* Communicating with your daughter: do's and don'ts
* True stories of "prodigal daughters" -- and how their fathers helped bring them back
Any other daughters out there got comments on the influence their fathers had? Hell, let's not be sexist...sons, you can comment too!
by Dr. Meg Meeker
That's right - and teen health expert Dr. Meg Meeker has the data and clinical experience to prove the most important person in a young girl's life is her father. After more than twenty years of counseling girls, Dr. Meeker knows that fathers, more than anyone else, set the course for their daughters' lives.
I'm not exactly sure what happened with the grammer there. "That's right" I mean. What's right? There was nothing above this in the email.
Now, Dr. Meeker shows you how to strengthen -- or rebuild -- your bond with your daughter, and use it to shape her life, and yours, for the better. Directly challenging the feminist attack on traditional masculinity, Dr. Meeker demonstrates that the most important factor for confident, well-adjusted women is a strong father with conservative values. To have one, she shows, is the best protection against eating disorders, failure in school, STD's, unwed pregnancy, and drug or alcohol abuse -- and the best predictor of academic achievement, successful marriage, and a satisfying emotional life.
Well, I can't say my dad's very conservative. I can say that I didn't fall prey to "eating disorders, failure in school, STD's, unwed pregnancy, and drug or alcohol abuse". I will give her this point though; I don't have a successful marriage, or any marriage at all for that matter. But it would probably shock the good Dr. Meeker to know that lack of marriage isn't impinging on my ability to have a "satisfying emotional life."
Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters reveals:
* The essential virtues and characteristics of strong fathers -- and how to develop them
* How daughters take cues from their fathers on everything from drug use, drinking, smoking, and having sex, to self-esteem, moodiness, and seeking attention from boys
Oh, we do? So I should drink LOTS more Budweiser, that being what my dad drank with almost every dinner when I was growing up. Instead, I don't drink beer at all. Can't stand the taste. Nor do I drink wine (mom's drink of choice).
* How to "be the man you want her to marry"
Hmm. Yeah--I really don't think I want to marry someone like Dad.
* Why girls want you to place restrictions on them (even though they'll complain when you do)
Holy shit that's sexist! I think that should be why children need restrictions, not just girls.
* How to become a "hero" to your daughter -- and why she needs that more than anything
Hmm. yeah, not buying it. My dad's great, and he can fix anything, but he's not my hero. If I had to pick someone as my hero, it'd be my mom--after all, I'm basically a younger version of her.
* The one mistake fathers make that is the primary cause of girls "hooking up"
Now this would be really interesting to find out about--Almost worth buying the book just for this point. Because for the life of me, I can't think of a single thing my dad did or didn't do that led to my past or current "hooking up" habits. Many things in my life have influenced that, and blaming (or crediting) a single "mistake" my dad made is patently ridiculous.
* How fathers act as a check on female emotions -- which can lead to trouble
Nope. Just nope.
* Why girls depend on the guidance of fathers through, and even beyond, their colleges years
Because otherwise I wouldn't know how to fix my car. Or replace the flooring in my house. Or ride a horse. Or build a fence. On these things, I definitely rely on my father's guidance. On things like where to move, who to date, what to do with my life...those things I go to my mother about.
* Debunked: the dangerous notion that girls "need to make their own decisions and mistakes"
What? EVERYONE needs to make their own decisions and mistakes. That's commonly called "growing up" and has nothing to do with being female or male, it has to do with being young. Kids that don't get to make their own decisions about things don't do so well in the real world, at least in my experience. And I LIKE being part of the real world--no urge here to be a housewife, thanks.
* Why girls need God -- and how your faith (or lack of it) will influence her deeply
Actually, I got my dose of God from my dad's mother--dad didn't actively influence my religion or lackthereof until I was at least 11.
* Contraceptives and depression: the alarming links
If your contraceptives are depressing you, you're on the wrong pill. Talk to your doctor and switch medications.
* Communicating with your daughter: do's and don'ts
Yeah, ok. Dad could use some communication pointers. Not just for me though--he doesn't communicate with anyone.
* True stories of "prodigal daughters" -- and how their fathers helped bring them back
Any other daughters out there got comments on the influence their fathers had? Hell, let's not be sexist...sons, you can comment too!
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Date: 2006-10-12 03:01 pm (UTC)Wow, I have a look of surprised shock and horror (combined with amusement) on my face right now. :-)
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Date: 2006-10-12 07:20 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-10-13 09:20 am (UTC)At how paternalistic it is, in a rather self-satsified and at the same time dissembling sort of way. The alliance between the Christians and the Republicans is an unholy abomination, filled with devils dressed nicely in suits having fatherly chats with you. Eep!
As for that... Well, my extreme caution and hesitation with drug use (even alchohol) is partly due to my upbringing I suppose. But I think that was because my brain was the only thing I thought anybody valued when I was a kid, so I'm hesitant to mess it up.
As for causing an unwed pregnancy, well, I have no compuctions. Causing an unwanted one I'm a lot less happy about though. And that has more to do with a sense of ethics than anything, which I suppose is something instilled as a kid, but strengthened by a lot of thought and reasoning as I got older.
In fact, I would say being away from an authoritarian parent gave me room to think about things and develop a much stronger set of ethics than I might've had before. I was an extremely stubborn little kid, and would do things to spite authority I percieved as undeserved, particularly if I felt wronged.